Song of the week-Need you now by Lady Antebellem

I heard this song on the CMT countdown yesterday. Check it out. It has a good rythym and melody. I have listened to it over and over again since yesterday. When I really like a song I get hooked and can listen to it for hours.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eB7T3lJ3dZ4

My friend is lost

My friend is having a hard time. She has been in this rut for quite sometime. She is a caring person. She loves her family and friends. She depends on them a lot. She depends on them to tell her she is a good person. She depends on them to make her feel better. She is a good listener and friend in return though too. She is always willing to listen to others problems and try to figure out an answer for them. She doesn't do that for herself though. She needs to start taking better care of herself. She doesn't get enough good sleep. She doesn't do anything healthy for herself. The days just seem to keep going by and nothing good ever changes for her. She doesn't like anyone to come over because they might see how messy her house is. She lives in total chaos. She only deals with things when she absolutely has to. Sometimes I think she would stay in bed all day if she could. She looks terrible. Her eyes are puffy and her face looks swollen. She can't even remember to take her medication daily. She doesn't eat right. She doesn't eat enough during the day and then she eats a ton at night. She feels like her family doesn't really like her. She knows they love her but liking her is something else. She feels like they think she is annoying. They talk down to her. They are short with her. Her home is in such chaos that I think no one wants to help get it in order. They will straighten it with her help too sometimes but then it just goes back to a mess. She needs to develop a routine. Maybe she needs to make a list of the most simple and required things that need to be done daily. Take her medication. Eat right. Go to bed early! Stop being on the computer so much. Stop watching tv shows that are a waste of time. Read some good books. Pray! She needs to turn to God for help but for some reason she doesn't. I'm not sure why. She has felt his love and comfort before and it was a great feeling. Why wouldn't she want to feel that way again? Does she not want her problems to go away? Is that all she knows so she is comfortable with it? It is really started to wear on her and her family though. She needs to get herself in a good routine so the rest of the family will feel better too. I wonder what would change in her family if there was order in their home? If beds were made? If dishes were done? If there was a lovely kitchen table set and ready every night for dinner? If the laundry was done? If bills were caught up and not a constant reminder daily? She needs to spend quality time with her family. She doesn't even look in her child's backpack after school to see what he's doing in school. She knows she needs to change but right now I think the rut she is in is all she knows. How can I help my friend? By being a good friend to her. Sometimes we are our worst enemies. We are nicer to others than to ourselves sometimes. Being lazy and not getting anything done is not being nice to ourselves or our family. Living in chaos is just that, Chaos. We need to be more loving to ourselves and to our families and friends. Sometimes it's easier to be loving to others than to ourselves.

Let your thoughts be positive.....

Let your thoughts be positive for they will become your words.
Let your words be positive for they will become your actions.
Let your actions become positive for they will become your values.
Let your values be positive for they will become your destiny.

Black bedroom walls?????

This is the bed set that I love. It's plum and cream colored. Would it look ok with black walls and cream molding and cream ceiling and cream closet doors?


This is a picture of a black bedroom with white trim and white ceiling. I think it's beautiful. I would rather have the accents and bed plum and cream.



Here is another picture of a lighter black walled bedroom.


Here is another black walled bedroom. The color of black is about in the middle of the other two pictures.


Here is another picture of walls that are plum.



What does everyone think? My husband really wants black walls. I was against the idea until I ran into these pictures. It looks elegant. I don't think all the walls should be black though, do you? Would 3 out of the 4 walls be ok black? The closet doors cream and the ceiling cream?
What color of carpet would we do?

I love Football!

My son has decided he wants to play football now. YAY! I am so excited. It was past the deadline to sign up so I had to do some persuading to the league to let him sign up. He got his helmet last night and some of his gear. We just got back from Big 5 and got him some mouth pieces and some new gloves. WOW! Gloves are expensive. Hopefully he can keep track of them this year until next year so he can wear them again. His cleats from last year still fit him! That's a huge plus!

He sat on his bed earlier with just his helmet on watching ESPN sports. Imagine. Funny, huh?
It's a lot of work and really time consuming but so worth it. I love watching him play. I love the routine. I love the camaraderie! I love everything about it.
I love all of my family cheering him on!

Words Have the Power to Make Relationships or Break Relationships

I read this article from a great blog called selfhelpdaily.com

The husband and I were driving around Smithland, Kentucky a few days ago. It’s a beautiful little river city near Paducah. I’ll forgive you if you haven’t heard of Smithland, it puts the small in small town.

I saw a cool street sign there, however, that made me start thinking about words – not that I need much motivation to think about words. I’m totally obsessed with them to begin with. Love to write them, love to read them, love to just immerse myself in their company every chance I get.

The sign was on a narrow little street lined with houses (with yards filled with bikes, swingsets, etc.). The Sign said, “DRIVE SLOW. WE LOVE OUR KIDS!”

Effective, much.

This sign put on a Communication’s Workshop all by itself. Copywriters, bloggers, speakers – anyone who owns a mouth with which they speak or hands with which they write could gather around the humble little sign and soak up the knowledge.

Everyone needs a WHY in life. Telling someone DO THIS or DON’T DO THAT without a why to support it simply isn’t as effective. The beauty of this sign lies in the fact that it conjures up something that most signs don’t – Emotion. Most of us are used to the “Slow Children Playing” signs. We seldom even register them when we see them anymore. (The only time I really notice them is when they remind me of what my dad said when they put this sign on our street, “Okay,but how about the fast ones? Are they fair game?” – I miss my dad.)

When you see one of the signs in Smithland, you’re pulled into the emotion that we all have for our children. The feeling tugs on your heart and you lay off the gas.

Words. Are. Powerful.

Words have the power to heal broken hearts and make dreams come true. They have the power to make someone feel better about themself. They also have the power to break hearts in the first place and to keep dreams from coming true. And of course they have the power to tear someone down completely and cause them to feel completely worthless.

How forcible are right words! – Job 6:25

Maybe it’s because I have such a close, loving relationship with words – but I wish that people who use words to harm, judge, belittle, tease, or shame others would take up the habit of chewing gum…… a big wad of gum, so thick that they can’t possibly even speak.

Wouldn’t the world be a more joyous, fun place in which to live?!?!

This is just one of the reasons I have always strived to keep hate out of my heart and out of my mind. When hate moves into your heart or mind, rest assured no good will ever come from it. It’ll simply grow and grow – then come flying out of your mouth or fingertips. Confucius said it best, “Words are the voice of the heart.” If your words are consistently critical, condemning, and unkind – guess what emotion dominates your heart?! It’s not just time to give your vocabulary an overhaul, it’s time to rethink your outlook on life.

I’ve often wondered if those who are hyper critical and overly judgmental are, on some level, very unhappy. It just seems to me that if you’re a happy, contented person who truly appreciates your blessings, you won’t have time to spit hatred all over the place.

If that’s the case, then I feel kind of sorry for the grumble guts. Hopefully, before they push the entire world away from them, they’ll find happiness. THEN, they can spread that instead of misery.

Kind words can be short and easy to speak, but their echoes are truly endless. – Josh Billings

We’d all do well to begin paying closer attention to our words – some people might just be amazed. Begin to be freeer with your compliments and more stingy with your sarcasm and insults. If someone you love looks beautiful, tell them so. If they cook a killer meal, commend them right before you give them a heartfelt “Thank you!” If someone does a favor for you, let them know how much you appreciate the favor and, even more, them.

Don’t take people for granted and never assume someone knows how you feel or what you think. They’ll only know for sure when you tell them.

“Words are the voice of the heart.” – Confucius